"For the lips of an adulteress drip honey, and her speech is smoother than oil...
Her feet go down to death; her steps lead straight to the grave.
Keep to a path far from her, do not go near the door of her house,
lest you give your best strength to others and your years to one who is cruel.
For a man's ways are in full view of the Lord, and he examines all his paths.
The evil deeds of a wicked man ensare him; the cords of his sin hold him fast.
He will die for lack of discipline, led astray by his own great folly."
I read this passage the other day and it challenged me big time. I think the first part of the passage is quite self explanatory - "Her feet go down to death; her steps lead straight to the grave." Now, before you begin to start worrying about whether I'm cheating on my wife, given that I don't have one, I'm coming at this more as a person who continually slapped in the face with sexually charged media; billboards, tv, magazines, songs, conversations - the list goes on.
To be honest, it's really difficult. It's often not talked about or honestly expressed how hard it really is trying to live a pure life in the midst of such straight up, tempting stuff.
I think because it's not talked about as much as is needed amongst christians, it's almost assumed that nobody struggles with the adulteress', or closer, sin's "honey dripping lips". It's almost turned into this, "if we don't talk about the difficulty, nobody will struggle with it" type mindset. But, from my understanding and conversations, many many christians struggle with the difficulty of living a life that's far from the 'adulteress' path'. I mean, as rewarding as the returns are - death and graves, it's still pretty difficult to "keep to a path far from her".
Not only does the temptation of sexual sin look appealing to the eye, it also appeals to our fleshly desire which goes against the kind of life God wants us to live.
I guess for me, still young and very much in the midst of today's youth culture (I like to continue telling myself that I'm still relevant to youth culture given that's who I work with), one of the greatest things we could benefit from is being honest. Not going to so far into the depths of our soul that we don't know how to get out, but more just being honest in a safe, appropriate environment about the stuff we struggle with. My thoughts are I'd be much more happy to talk with a close mate or group of mates about the struggles than spiritually die. I'd rather seek to encourage eachother to keep far from the death directed path than to try to keep my pride and aimlessly wander down the road towards her house and destruction.
Thing is, God knows every step we take and where every step is going to take us. He makes it clear, just read Proverbs 1 - 5. But, it's pretty easy if we try hard enough to push aside his warning voice and pretend it's ok. However, trying to ignore the voice of a close friend warning us of where our steps might be taking us is often alot harder.
Therefore, in the appropriate way and setting, we need to be honest with each other and be willing to be straight up about where we're headed. I certainly don't want to waste my best energy, time and dreams on some worthless, empty and destructive temptation the world tries to sell us. I want to walk the other way: towards God and towards an amazing life.
Goal for the week - find someone to be honest with about the stuff you struggle with and delve into the scripture together about where God wants to lead us. Go on, you know it'll be phat.